I recognise that there are levels of help I need when I’m struggling. I also know when I am falling into a place of ‘deer in the headlights’, helplessness or like I feel like my world is collapsing; like an atomic bomb has gone off and the ripple effects are my fault.
This is when I need to self-care and re-seek my own personal therapy to come good again and reach a state of homeostasis. This is my sense of balance where judgement, conditioning and prejudice dissolve again and my light ignites again. I know that when those negative feelings come up for me, my self-awareness kicks in and I start to self-talk….
How did I get here?
Why is this happening to me?
Why do I feel shut off from the world?
How am I coping right now?
What am I doing to change this?
This can be measured on a scale for me and I know how to act but sometimes I have needed a helping hand to do that through getting personal therapy.
No therapist is perfect!
Any therapist who says they are may well be deluded. What I am is a work in progress constantly. Always looking to better myself and reflect through self-talk, psycho-education, CPD, personal counselling for self and robust supervision to check my actions and practice on a twice-monthly basis. I am always evolving by being real and current and admitting my flaws. Developed self-awareness and learned graciousness works like that and it can be achieved through this tough self-work in counselling.
Coming back to ‘us’, I essentially look at working with the emotions, what’s happening for you. I will always be guided by you and what you bring with your autonomous guidance. We’ll look at your childhood and adolescence which helps to decode, unravel, stay with and uncover what could be painful memories for you. I will never push you into telling me something. The session is always held at your pace and boundaries are kept tight to provide safety for both you and I.
I am here to navigate those difficult paths you walk and help bring focus to free up the deer in the headlights feel and the 'stuckness'.
Our collaborative experience together is based on honesty and transparency at a pace which is comfortable for you and I’d like to help unpack the rucksack of hardship you're carrying.